OnlyDads gets asked the same question time and time again!
The question (in general) goes like this…
…my ex sees the children once every other weekend. Why is it always me who does the ferrying round? Shouldn’t she find the money and make the effort to do the picking up and dropping off?!
We have noticed (as finances become tighter) that this is becoming a real issue for more and more single parents. I can relate to this.
I’m going to get a bit personal here…but when my ex asked if I could pick the girls up from her house the other weekend rather than drop them off herself, my immediate thoughts were “why the hell should I?”. It was on reflection afterwards that I realised that my initial reaction had more to do with other, much longer term frustrations, than the act of jumping into the car and fetching my D’s back home.
I recognise now, having spoken to a few Dads about the issue, that this is just another example of how ongoing relationships with the ex can too often not run smoothly.
I just wonder if as part of the divorce and separation process more thought and input needs to be given to this issue. And to see if anyone else feels that same sense of frustration that so many of the OnlyDads site users do, and how they deal with it. Would be interested to hear your views…