This “cocktail of choice” was suggested to me before I went to a party a couple of months ago.
The context was a telephone conversation with another single dad friend. Being a bloke’s conversation it was fairly straight forward and to the point.
Me: “I’m off to a party later tonight”
Mate: “Bloody hell mate, what’s going on. You NEVER go out. Are you going to hook up with a 40 y/o MILF?”
Me: “Listen, I’ve been doing housework since the moment I got up. I’ve cooked, cleaned, ran around after kids and been to the splash and slide hour at the local pool. I’m knackered. Sex really is the last thing on my mind just now…you understand!”
Mate: “Bob Bob Bob – I know”, he said. (he doesn’t stutter by the way – he just sometimes says my name a lot – like it’s funny or something)…but you will be fine. Two pints of Stella and a bluey and you’ll be laughing”
After the phone call I remember thinking if I had two pints of Stella and a bluey now, I’d be asleep on the sofa in half an hour in a rather embarrassing position!
Anyway, I digress.
When Jane Garvey presented her ‘phone in on stay at home dads this morning during Woman’s Hour I think she missed a trick. And I’m not saying that because the ever wonderful and entertaining Keith got 5 minutes to talk about his ironing and I got a nano second in which I think I said “good morning” before I heard they were shifting to the news!
No. For me the programme only scratched the surface of some of the real frustrations and anxieties many single dads and SAHD’s feel. The word “emasculated” is one I hear a lot in the OnlyDads office. It is one used by brave and honest men and should have been teased out more.
What was it Keith said…”I don’t want to go on a bug hunt or make a collage with kids…I’d prefer to go to the pub.” Spot on mate!
Anyway – those are my thoughts. And by the way, before OnlyDads gets sued, that “cocktail of choice” comes as a suggestion from a man with no medical qualifications whatsoever!
But I am left wondering it works with pints of Marston’s Pedigree instead of Stella?