Tara’s post of this same title crossed my time-line on Twitter the other day. I’m not reading that, I thought. It will only upset me…
…but curiosity got the better of me today however, and I read it.
And got upset !!
When you watch Tara’s video (it is very lovely) you will hear many of the mums use the “cuddles” word. It is this word, more than any other, that hurts.
I say that because in this house my girls get bags of love and probably more than enough attention! But what they don’t get much of, is cuddles.
OnlyDads brings me into contact with lots of single dads, so I know I’m not alone. Lone dads can give children many advantages in life. My two daughters have learned that pizza tastes better on the sofa watching the Simpsons, and that Health & Safety legislation is something for other families to worry about – Anya still holds the record for the youngest child to clamber along the outside of the bridge over our river!
I’m often asked to speak or write about life as a single dad. My usual response is that it’s a bit like any other life and really not that interesting!
That said, when my girls are all grown-up I just wonder whether they will reflect back on a life without cuddles. It may be that a strong part of me resembles 1950s dad, or that I just feel uncomfortable cuddling my daughters now that they are that much older. I’m just not sure. What I do know is that neither of my daughters get their daily cuddle allowance.
…and on their behalf, this upsets me 😦