It does cross my mind that responding to Daily Mail articles is rarely wise; often the inflammatory journalism warrants nothing more than a shrug and a bin.
But when this crossed my time-line this morning I did feel the need to reply.
My first reaction to this piece from Kelly Rose took me back to this article I wrote about why we never hear about a father’s bond. It seems to me that it is almost taken as granted that a “mother’s bond” is stronger and more meaningful that dad’s bond. I question that very notion. Sit for one day in the OnlyDads office and you will get my point.
My second reaction was one of a sinking despair!
This despair has two parts:
- There are (to put it bluntly) too many children being brought up in this country at the moment who seem tied to their mother’s apron strings. We seem to be raising a generation of namby pamby young men. I quote from an 11yo boy to his Dad (the dad in question is a mate of mine). “Dad…please get me away from Mum. The way she treats me is making me lose my bottle”. They are strong words and worth thinking about. I recently finished a book about “The Cardiff Pals”. A heart-breaking story about young lads from Cardiff who went off to fight in WW1. What came over so strongly though was the fact these young boys – many just 15 – had hearts of lions. God forbid we ever have another war like that again, but if we did, today’s recruiting officer from Cardiff would be choosing boys walking down Queen Street with foppish haircuts wearing One Direction clothes!
- Readers of this post will know that running OnlyDads brings me into contact with many single mums and I’m the first to take my hat off! But in reading Kelly’s article,it brought home to me just how many mums seem to feel the need to “protect” their sons (it’s often sons) from their own Dads. Can I say gently…that is not your job.
These “mother’s bonds” that society is so fond of talking about. Well there is one thought I have that I want to share with Kelly and those who nod in agreement at what she has written. These “bonds”, especially the strong ones, are incredibly elastic.