My response has to start with a caveat – this article came out in the Daily Mail – as such it needs to be treated with extreme caution!
That said, Louis de Bernieres has an important role as a Patron of Families Need Fathers – and by hook or by crook, he allowed this article to be published. I have not seen him repudiate or take back what he has written.
So what does OnlyDads think of this article?
The overall tone is unfortunate!
It leaves itself open to accusations of misogyny. Its open attack on the legal profession will do FNF and its membership no favours. It will in fact alienate a number of key-players holding responsibility for the current reform agenda.
We spoke about this at one of our meetings last night. The dads there agreed with some of the content – but felt the message was lost somewhat because of the rather “angry” tone. At a personal level – I share the same views.
I think what disappointed me most was the fact that the whole article seemed to rehearse this age-old agenda of cash-hungry and biased solicitors, the lack of “fathers rights”, all rolled up into a, not altogether hidden, anti-women slant.
I find it sad that (once again) I find myself having to distance our approach from fellow dad’s organisations. Big splashes in the Mail are worth their weight in Gold in advertising terms. How I bet FNF will end up regretting a missed opportunity to really get a message across.
For our part, and together with our sister organisation OnlyMums we will continue to offer the best possible professional advice, support, and direction to mums and dads who find themselves going through the pain of divorce/separation. Working together – mums and dads – enhances all we do. It doesn’t grab headlines, but it is the way forward.
Bob Greig, Founder. OnlyDads