CoffeeCurls tagged me for this post. I’m honoured!
It’s to do with Motherhood and was prepared around Mother’s Day. As many of you will appreciate, I have been raising my two daughters, Priya and Anya largely on my own for a number of years. In that time I have heard the expression “it must be hard being both mum and dad” more times than you could wave a stick at.
I am of course, not a mum. Although, in “old-money”, I have undertaken some “motherly duties”. But we now live with decimalisation. Old money is out. “Mothering” and “Fathering” is now best described as Parenting. I answer these questions, not as some kind of cross-dressing man/woman hybrid; rather, I answer as a man and a parent.
Does that make sense?
Q1. Describe Motherhood in three words.
Wine. O. Clock.
Q2. Does your experience differ from your Mother’s – how?
My mum was – in every way – a traditional mum. Stay at home – cook – clean – make dinners. I have done some of that. My mum enjoyed it, I do only a “bit”.
Q3. What’s the hardest thing about being a mum?
CoffeeCurls answered “The fear”.
I really get that!
I fear that my parenting isn’t good enough. A fear that my girls will look back and think that could have been a lot better.
A nagging doubt that I’m not doing quite good enough! I get that feeling lots!
Q4. What’s the best thing?
When your 15yo tells you that boys only want girls for “sex and to make them sandwiches”.
Raising a feminist is the way to go!
Between you and me – I do worry though that she may have a penchant for tubby lads who insist on her making sandwiches. That’s odd. I may have to worry about that (see above).
Q5. How has it changed you?
I’m not sure. I guess I feel I can turn my hand to anything. Multi-tasking! I can do that now.
Q6. What do you hope for your children?
I want them to enter the grown-up world with their head held high. Proud happy women.
They will (I can assure you) be telling men to make their own sodding sandwiches by the time I’m finished 🙂
Q7. What do you fear for them?
I have two fears:
- Growing up in a world where we expect (and accept) millions of people to live on a dollar a day. The world is morally bankrupt. It will be a hard place for them to truly flourish as human beings.
- They will be starting life with a Government that is made up of very rich men. Men who do not and will not care for poor girls. I will feed them confidence to tackle this. It may, or may not be enough?
Q8. What makes it all worthwhile?
My wonderful girls are growing-up (15 and almost 12). I see blossoming young women. It makes my heart sing.
Over to you MochaDad. Am really interested to hear what you answer!