It is perhaps an obvious question when you run an organisation like OnlyDads – after all we deal with enquiries from single parents and those who are going through the often difficult process of divorce and separation. In that way we see and hear more than our fair share of individuals who have (or are being) “dumped”.
But it was when my 14 y/o came home from school a month or so ago that led me to raise this simple question. In a state of teenage girl excitement she got off the school bus to impart the latest hot gossip from school!
Barely able to contain herself, (but only after the mandatory “you’ll never guess what”) she blurted out… “X has only gone and dumped Y”
It took me back: Firstly it took me back to the playgrounds of my school days where that word was still common parlance. Secondly, it just took me back! What a terribly negative word.
Take a look the definitions – all of them so devastatingly grim.
This may sound almost too obvious for words, but is “how to end a relationship in a dignified and respectful way” something that could and should be taught at home and in schools? I appreciate that PSE is now part of the school curriculum – I just wonder if more emphasis needs to be put on how to respect others when things go wrong.
Of course separation and the ending of a relationship is difficult and painful. But a bit more education in this area from parents and teachers alike may help the next generation avoid the total angst that surrounds too many relationship break-ups today.
What are your thoughts? It would be interesting to hear from teachers or parents who have raised this subject with their children.